Would you do it differently? – how to plan your life

This week I got asked by my cousin “if you could do it all over again, would you do it differently?”. That made me think back. Am I happy where I am right now in my life? Could I be more successful if I had done things differently?

To answer these questions we need to zoom out a little bit: I’m in my 40s now. I’ve reached a point in my career where spectators would attest to me that I am successful. But still, I’m not completely satisfied with what I’ve accomplished.

So what was my answer to my cousin’s question? Goals! I wish I had set goals earlier in my life. Sure. I’ve always had things I was trying to accomplish. What I would do differently is one simple thing: Write it down. When musing about how life should turn out we do it in our heads and may have a clear view of what it should look like. But the second we hit a speedbump on our set way to that vision our brain does something really odd. The goal shifts and changes. Don’t get me wrong. Reevaluating our goals is an exercise we should do now and then. But it should be intentional. Changing the goal because it’s too much trouble getting out of bed early is never a good idea.

So, write it down. This could be a text, a bullet point list. You can draw a nice picture of what your life should look like in 5 Years. Whatever feels right for you. The important part is that you can look at it when you struggle to remind yourself why you are doing all of this.

You can go even further with a few technics that Ali Abdaal presents in a video. For example the Odyssee Plan. Write down (in much detail) what a day in your life would look like in those scenarios:

  • What would your life look like in 5 years if you continue down the path you’re currently on?
  • What would it look like when you take a totally different route because your current path get’s blocked by something?
  • What would your life look like if money and what people think would’t matter at all?